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We've all been hurt by someone. How do we deal with it? It's true that forgiveness isn't easy, but it is necessary in order to live a life of freedom and making the most of every day. This program offers six steps to turn your anger into forgiveness. Give it a try!

Motivational Minute:
Isaiah 49:16 "Shout for joy, O heavens; rejoice, O Earth; burst into song, O mountains! For the Lord comforts his people and will have compassion on His afflicted ones."

Why do we need to forgive?

The Bible tells us to. It is good for us. Here are just a few verses.

Ephesians 4:32 "Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you."

Colossians 3:13-14 "Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. 14 And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity."

Six Steps to Turn Anger into Forgiveness

  1. Turn from anger to feeling sorry for the other person.
    • When you are angry with someone because of their sin or even their personality flaw, instead of letting your anger control you, view their flaw as a weakness.
    • Jesus said, "Father forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing." Luke 23:24
    • Understand that they need prayer to correct their flaw of sin.
  2. Pray for the other person.
    • Pray that God will open their eyes to what they cannot see.
    • Pray that He will give them the strength to overcome the sin.
    • Pray for them to overcome their pride.
    • Pray for God to forgive them and to pour out His love on them.
    • Another thought… when they finally experience God’s love and presence, then they will be compelled to change and in turn, make your life easier.
  3. Pray for Yourself.
    • "Search me, O God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts. See if there is any offensive way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting." Psalm 139:23-24
    • Pray that God will show you if there is anything in you that you need to change.
    • Pray and ask Him to give you the strength to change.
    • Pray that He will help you overcome your pride, if there is any.
  4. Make a conscious attitude change.
    • You must really come to the conclusion that you love God so much that you don’t want anything or anyone to hurt your relationship with Him. You value your relationship with God so much that nothing is worth coming between your perfect fellowship with Him.
    • Being unforgiving is a sin. When we harbor known sin in our lives and desire not to change, then we are allowing "static" on our line of communication with God. When our fellowship is broken, we cannot pray effectively.
    • Warren Wiersbe says the following in his book, "The Bible Exposition Commentary."
      "If God answered the prayers of a believer who had an unforgiving spirit, He would dishonor His own name. How could God work through such a person to get His will done on earth? If God gave him his requests, He would be encouraging sin!"
    • When you harbor anger and unforgiveness toward others, you allow your joy to be taken.
  5. Know that people need loving the most when we deserve it the least.
    • Jesus died on the cross for our sins when he didn’t deserve it. As Christians, we are God’s hands, His feet, His mouth, His tangible expression of love and forgiveness. We simply must be different from the world and forgive each other.
    • "If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames, but have not love, I gain nothing." 1 Corinthians 13:1
    • "And now these three remain; faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love." 1 Corinthians 13:13
  6. Realize that it also takes time to forgive.
    • Forgiving someone is a difficult process, especially if the wound is deep.

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