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Summary:

We can choose our friends, but we don't get to choose our families. Because of a wide range of personalities, diverse interests, and perhaps even unhealed wounds, often Christmas time with the family can be stressful. This show will help combat family anxiety that often appears during the Christmas season.

There are some things we do that cause us Anxiety during this time of year. Many of these things we don't even realize. Here they are along with solutions to make this Christmas season the best ever!

Don't ponder scenarios that might happen. (Bad Thoughts)

This gets you upset and puts you on edge before the event comes around.

DO: Find some strengthening scriptures from the Bible. Write them on note cards and start reviewing them today. Getting God's truth into your heart and mind will help combat any negative thinking.

Philippians 4:8 "Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable- if anything is excellent or praiseworthy- think about such things."

Isaiah 43:18-19 "Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing!"

Psalm 34:7 "The angel of the Lord encamps around those who fear him, and he delivers them."

God Says in Hebrews 13:5b "Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you."

Hebrews 13:6 "So we say with confidence, "The Lord is my helper, I will not be afraid. What can man do to me?"

Don't get upset that your family doesn't fit the perfect family model. (Unrealistic expectations)

(* I think this is the number 1 reason why people have a difficult time!)

Most people don't even know why they are frustrated during this time of the year. The fact is, most of us long for the people in our family to change and fit that picture perfect model we have in our minds.

The truth is, I don't know of one family that fits the model of perfection. When you look close enough, every family has problems, deals with difficult people, and has to overcome obstacles that life has thrown at them. Often we try to use television shows such as "The Brady Bunch" and "The Andy Griffith Show" as our perfect family models. But, even the Brady Bunch suffered the death of a mother and a father. And on the Andy Griffith Show, Andy and Opie had to deal with the heartbreaking death of a spouse and mother.

Yes, this time of the year brings us more in tune with love, peace and happiness. But for some, when they look at these lovely images, they turn it around and see the imperfections in their own lives.

Sometimes, we harbor deep sadness, anger, and resentment:

  • Because others don't live up to our expectations
  • Because life has thrown us some hard punches

DO: Understand that no family is perfect. Accept people as they really are and don't waste your time and energy trying to change them. No fixing, no wishing, no getting frustrated, and no pouting that it's not perfect. Yes, life would be so much better if these others would shape up, but don't waste your time trying to reason with unreasonable people.

Don't expect a bad reunion. (Low Expectations)

Instead: Decide it's time for a brand new day. Decide ahead of time that you are going to enjoy this Christmas! We can't control others, but we can control ourselves and our own thoughts, emotions, feelings, words, and actions.

For the adventuresome: Bring in something new. If you have always wanted to play a board game with your family, then bring a couple of games and offer them for play. If no one wants to play, then at least you tried, but there might be at least two that want to take part. If that's the case, then you three have a great time and let the others do their own thing. But an important point to remember is that you will not get upset when some don't wish to join in the fun. Let it go. Make your own fun.

Don't just try this during this Christmas gathering. Continue to make your own fun. As the years roll along, you never know what might happen!

Don't look for the bad.

Instead: Look for something good in your family to cherish. As you learn to find something good, it gets easier and easier!


Notes from A Wonderful Life with Sharon Hinton Smith show. © 2005 - 2018

You are invited to print and keep these notes for personal encouragement. www.sharonhintonsmith.com